Take it easy, my friend
The key is to slow down. It has been 15 months since Abby came into our lives. From being a first time parent to trying things out one at a time. There were so many things we have attempted and experienced for the first time (both as a parent and as an individual). I must admit that it was not easy in the beginning but we have not only learnt to go easy but to go slow. Housework, hygiene, health, none of it has a time limit. If you are willing to slow down, everything will get done. It goes so much faster than you can possibly imagine. I believe there will come a time when my wife will miss nursing and pooping at the same time and we might miss even the most intense tears and screams that come from our beautiful baby. They cling to you for such a short time. Embrace it. It's such a special time. Just go slow and prioritize what is truly important for your family. Nothing is more important than this time. A decade will pass by and many regrets and guilty feelings could have come and vanished. My mantra is to go easy, go slow and not delve too much on the regrets.
Coincidentally, I have recently picked up this book from the National Library which is very applicable for me, and that is "Superior Bare Minimum Parenting". While it does not really ask you to go slow, but it provided the most pragmatic advice and that is to turn your child into a functional adult with only a fraction of time and effort. I believe that if you do it right, your kid will be no better or worse off than any other kids out there. And it turns out, while you spend lesser time and effort, you can literally go slow (due to the lesser time spent). Sometimes we just put so much pressure on ourselves to make the most perfect choice for kids and we are so bothered by what people think of us and the choices we make (hello parent shamers out there!). My advice is to chill and go easy on yourself, because there is no perfect parenting books out there. Every kid is different and do not get too fixated on new age parenting or social media these days. Do what you think is best for your kid and learn to go slow.
Life should be simple.
Because it is simple.
